You’ll Do Anything for Him/Her

I realized at the age of 38 that I needed help to understand what was happening in my relationships. I wanted to know what was “wrong” with me that I kept looking to the outside for someone new while I was in a relationship. Almost immediately I was shocked to learn that I had not been “growing” emotionally. I had been stuck doing the same thing over and over again. That realization felt so right to me.

As I grew, and my self awareness took hold, I was again shocked to realize that I was looking outside my relationship to find someone new in order to get “something” that I was missing inside of me. I didn’t know that I’d been looking for… a person, who would “make me” feel good about myself. My self-esteem and self-confidence were shot. That was when I also decided to change my career path and go back to school to obtain a Master’s Degree in Psychology and then a PhD in Psychology.